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Marshay Patterson

Her biological mother struggled with drug addiction and as a result lost custody of all of her children. Marshay and her twin brother were adopted by her Mother Francis, who now resides in Mississippi and her Father Clarence...
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Marshay Patterson graduated the HOPE program on March 13th 2015, at that time committing to an oath to turn her life around. It was a commitment and opportunity she did not take for granted. We all have a story and while it may be a troubling one, she is thankful that her story has led her to Hope for Prisoners.
Marshay is 30 years old and grew up in Southern California. She is the third oldest of seven children. Her biological mother struggled with drug addiction and as a result lost custody of all of her children. Marshay and her twin brother were adopted by her Mother Francis, who now resides in Mississippi and her Father Clarence. Her parents were able to adopt four of the seven children.
Marshay stated that she lived a very sheltered lifestyle. She had amazing parents and guidance and wanted for nothing. She excelled in academics, volunteered a lot, earned an Associate’s Degree in Criminal Justice and aside from a speeding ticket here and there managed to stay out of trouble. She shares this because trouble can find anyone. The thing that makes the difference in our lives are our choices. Whether we make a good or bad choice there will always be a consequence. She believes you’ve heard many times before that your association’s determine your destination. That is a big part of her story and how she ended up here at Hope.
In college Marshay met a man whom became a big influence in her life. They dated for 6 years and 3 years into the relationship he experienced a few challenges and made a decision to go back to the streets and hustle. As much as she cared for him, there was a part of her that knew she should have parted ways with him because they no longer shared the same values. Her choice to stay in that relationship led her down a dark path. She accepted the dysfunction of the relationship she was in, it became her norm and she was introduced to many things she never imagined she would have been involved in.
Marshay wanted out, but had isolated herself from friends and family and was solely dependent on her boyfriend at the time. She had trouble finding work in California so it was her boyfriend’s decision to move to Vegas. Eventually she separated herself from him and moved to a transitional house where she became House Manager. She was still having trouble finding work so Clark County social services told her to go to Hope for Prisoners because they help felons find jobs. That’s all they told her and boy were they wrong. Hope for Prisoners does so much more.
By the time she came to the orientation she was desperate for help. She had made up in her mind that she needed help or was going to have to go back to the unhealthy situation. Jon called her the Friday before class to let her know she made it and she could not stop crying tears of joy because this was the lifeline she needed. The workshop took her from a place of hopelessness and ignited a fire in her that refused to burn out. When she came she was depressed, suffering from anxiety and PTSD. But Jon made it clear where she came from didn’t matter and helped her visualize her future. Miss Barbara Lupe helped her build up her self-esteem and Greg Ketter taught her the value of hard work and perseverance. On graduation day she shared her Vivid Vision and is proud to say that with the help of her Hope family she has accomplished most of her goals. She has her own place, worked at McDonalds as a Department Manager, and was the Vice President of the Leadership Academy run by Chris Petko, where he has been working on helping her become a more effective leader, the importance of identifying her core values, and developing her leadership vision. She has participated in the womens group, book clubs, the financial workshop and a few volunteer opportunities. She enjoys being with her Hope family and for the first time in a long time she feels at peace and is truly happy. She is thankful for the family she has here and for having positive people to share her life with such as Thomas, Art, DP, Officer Drew and her Fiance Nick to name a few.
“Look, I can’t promise it will be easy but I can promise you it will be worth it. Stay connected and know we have your back,” Marshay says.
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An Update to Marshay Patterson’s Story

Back in 2017, we first shared the story of Marshay Patterson, a woman determined to rise above her past and step boldly into her future. Since then, her journey has continued to unfold in ways more beautiful than she once thought possible. Today, we are honored to share an update on her life, her love, and her purpose. Allow us to introduce you to…

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Mrs. Marshay McDowell: Living Her Purpose

When Marshay first walked through the doors of HOPE for Prisoners, she carried not only her past but also a question that weighed heavy on her heart: Could I be seen as a woman of valor and live a life beyond my mistakes?

Today, she stands with confidence and joy, knowing the answer is a resounding, YES.

A Love That Strengthens Through Trials

In November 2019, Marshay married Nicholas McDowell (Nick) in a ceremony officiated by HOPE’s founder and CEO and friend, Jon Ponder. From the beginning, Nick has been her partner in every sense of the word, celebrating victories, navigating challenges, and building a foundation rooted in faith, respect, and unconditional love.

In early 2025, Marshay faced one of the hardest decisions of her life: to choose her health over the possibility of bearing children. Undergoing a hysterectomy was not easy, it meant closing a door she had once hoped would stay open. But Nick never wavered. He chose her, her life, and their future together above all else.

My husband accepts and loves me for me. This allows me to feel empowered to move freely in my purpose.

Together, they’ve emerged stronger than ever. Marshay describes this chapter as a “Season of rediscovery, resilience, and recommitment – where love is not just felt, but actively chosen every day.”

Three Beautiful Parts of Her Life Today

Her Marriage & Partnership
For Marshay, marriage to Nick is more than companionship, it’s healing. It’s the reassurance that she is valued for who she is, not what she has been through. Together they’ve built a home, weathered storms, and found joy in everyday life (including their two beloved fur babies, Gizmo and Sam).

Her Purpose in Service
  Marshay found her home here at HOPE for Prisoners. She is a valued employee that brings life, love and actual lived experiences that she gets to pour into women every day working alongside Dr. Carolyn Willis. “If I can plant even one seed in a woman who feels hopeless, then I know I’ve lived my purpose.” Her calling is clear: to use her story to speak life, courage, and faith into those who are still walking through the struggles she once knew too well.

Her Creative Calling “I refuse to let the greatness within me, die with me.” 

   With the support, Marshay is building a brand called Keep It Awkward, a movement encouraging people to embrace their authentic selves and find joy in the messy, in-between places of life. Soon, she will launch journals and workshops to help others develop healthy mindsets and celebrate their own journeys. “I’m creating the very tools I once needed myself,” she shares.

A Word to the Next HOPEFUL

Marshay’s advice to anyone considering HOPE is simple but powerful:
“Take the risk. Say yes. It will be the best risk you’ll ever take. It’s not just a program. It’s a new life. It’s family. It’s a chance to walk into a clear vision for yourself. It’s actual HOPE.”

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